If you're about to turn 40, chances are you are planning to celebrate this "big" birthday - and I hope you're excited about it!
For some, this can be a great time for reflection and to look back at what you have achieved and how you have enjoyed your life so far. For others, reaching such a milestone can be a bit troubling, as you may fret whether you have really achieved enough and where you might be in another ten years.
We should all reflect on our stage in life, where we are personally, financially and emotionally. Being a mum usually leaves precious little time for pampering ourselves, so it's not surprising that turning 40 may prompt us to reflect and ask ourselves if we still have "it"!"
It's very true to say that we all become more philosophical as we age. This comes from reflecting on the richness and variety of your own life and putting into practice the many life lessons that have come along. Each decade milestone will find us in a very different place in our book of life and we will look back on our memories in a different way and look forward to what we have ahead of us with a fresh perspective. As such, considering whether you are sexy or not as a 40-something mum will undoubtedly unveil a whole list of different answers than it would if you were 30.
Those of us who have survived and even thrived being 40 know that our sex appeal is reflected in our confidence and our sense of being self-assured. We are comfortable in our own skin, we know who we are and we feel good about our choices in life.
We are much more composed, and know how to deal with any situation when it arises by displaying a sassy attitude, allowing us to feel inherently good about ourselves and to resolve problems with a lot more ease.
Professional coaching solutions exist for mums at every stage of their life journey and can often help us to come to terms with our milestones. What does "sexy mean for you? Try to think about what makes you feel sexy.
Physically you will have a different appearance of course, but with your maturity you need to learn to trust yourself to make the most of your looks every day. For example, do as the old screen sirens did - learn how you look better in certain lights and always present your best side to a camera! Emotionally and mentally, however it is likely that you are much sexier and more appealing for every year that you age.
Be secure in your status and believe in yourself and what you have achieved. Look at your children and be rightly proud of the loving relationship you have with your partner. Remember that life is only really enjoyable when you truly love yourself, first and foremost. Seek out online life coaching experts if you feel a little overwhelmed when you are approaching or get to those special milestones that everyone makes such a big deal about!
Remember that life begins at 40 and when coaching for women in this position I often remind them that the biggest favour they can do themselves is to think and act "young." Ask yourself this question - How old would you be in your heart and soul if you didn't know your true age? Hopefully the answer to this question isn't "90"! Now, go strut your stuff, fabulous 40 mum!
Author Resource:-
Amanda Alexander, Director of Coaching Mums, helps pressure-cooked, exhausted working mums who long for more hours in the day and space to think. Through herprofessional coaching programmes and online coaching courses, Amanda helps mums to create a balanced, fulfilling and successful life that works for them. For self-coaching tips tailored to working mums, sign up for Inspire, our highly-acclaimed free newsletter, atCoaching Mums
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